Transformation from grieving from a terrible grief incident is an uphill climb, often steep and rugged. After shocking grief You can never completely have your old life back. You must begin anew. You will need to begin again to develop a new-identity. Part of your security and identity was formed by relationships, physical condition, and association of many things within your environment. The way you define yourself may have dramatically changed forever. The demanding task of reconstructing self-identity may be painfully difficult work. Your circumstances have changed forever. Grief not only causes you dreadful pain but temporarily takes away your personal security.
“Sorrow prepares you for joy. It violently sweeps everything out of your house, so that new joy can find space to enter. It shakes the yellow leaves from the bough of your heart, so that fresh, green leaves can grow in their place. It pulls up the rotten roots, so that new roots hidden beneath have room to grow.” ~Rumi
Deep Sorrow detours hope, peace and calm. Only a temporary admission of defeat and submission caused by your grief incident should be allowed. Surrender of security should be temporary – not lasting and permanent. Reach for new roots of security they are hidden deep within.
“We build too many walls and not enough bridges.” ~ Isaac Newton
Grief and loss would have you build walls of lasting insecurity. Temporary loss of security and hope must be only temporary, otherwise healing is nullified. Building bridges of hope and security should be high on your to do list every day.
“The walls we build around us to keep sadness out also keep out the joy.” ~ Jim Rohn
Every day building bridges to dispel sadness and gain peace and joy should be of utmost importance to you. Will you consider the bridges you will build to give you long term security and hope?
Consider what it takes to find peace and Joy after a dreadful grief happening in your life. Joy is something that is deep within and doesn’t leave hurriedly. It is more than a fleeting happiness. Peace and joy go together.
Walter Anderson shares a vital principle about personal attitude choices:
“I am responsible. Although I may not be able to prevent the worst from happening, I am responsible for my attitude toward the inevitable misfortunes that darken life. Bad things do happen; how I respond to them defines my character and the quality of my life. I can choose to sit in perpetual sadness, immobilized by the gravity of my loss, or I can choose to rise from the pain and treasure the most precious gift I have – life itself.” ~Walter Anderson
Count your blessings. Find clarity in the blessings you need. Constantly evaluate your condition and needs. Reconnect with your interest and passions. Reconciliation of your sorrowful condition brings into harmony the grieving you experience. Don’t allow grief to take away your faith in God, love of life and most importantly, your hope. Embrace all precious gifts in your life. Opportunities are available. Will you seek them?
“Grief never ends, but it changes. It is a passage, not a place to stay. The sense of loss must give way if we are to value the life that was lived.” ~Author unknown
If you can’t find reasons to be joyful, your perspective needs changed. Grief doesn’t only present aching of the heart and mind. It also provides opportunities for new possibilities and new roots for growth. Accept the invitation to discover new roots to make your life fuller, more peaceful and joyful. Someone once said: The greatest things in life cannot be seen or touched but must be felt with the heart and soul.
“Even if happiness forgets you a little bit, never completely forget about it.” ~ Jacques Prévert
At all times, embrace all available social media, technology, internet, and all other beneficial and essential resource solutions. Overcoming despair, grief and loss should be your highest priority. To stop grieving, start healing your grief, loss, and sorrow, and finding hope and joy is vital to experiencing lasting peace. Always renew your personal hope and security efforts.