How can you be happy having experienced an unwanted and unbearable grief happening? How can you return to a happy wholesome state of peace? You can! Follow these key seven solutions:
1- Happiness Is A Choice
“Happiness is a choice. You grieve, you stomp your feet,
you pick yourself up and choose to be happy.”
~ Lucy Lawless
A grief happening tugs at your heart and your mind. It can strain your very being. It adds confusion, lack of clarity and often a feeling of hopelessness. As you begin your healing journey to reconcile your grief it is OK to stomp your feet. Be angry and experience deep sorrow simultaneously in your grieving. Yet, there is a moment in your unique very personal journey when you must recognize the need to choose to seek solutions to find happiness and peace.
“Life is now. There was never a time when your life was not now, nor will there ever be.”
~ Eckhart Tolle
Your cause to grieve has upset your happy apple cart. Nonetheless, your time to choose is now. Choose to search for ways to be happy again.
2- Seize The Day
In times of significant grief is an essential time to not delay seeking happy solutions.
“Seize The Day” (Carpe Diem) is sometimes interpreted as an invitation to party irresponsibly – without regard for the consequences. My interpretation of Carpe Diem is to seize the day in the sense of honoring the importance and sanctity of each day we live. It is so easy to delay the important parts of living until another day. But don’t do that… Do something truly important Today. Make Today count. Today – each Today – is the most important day of your life. You’ve got to experiment to figure out what works.”
~ Andrew Weil
Seeking and searching for happy solutions is the most important action you can take.
3- Is Your Heart Pointed In The Correct Direction?
“Everyone should carefully observe which way his heart draws him, and then choose that way with all his strength.”
~ Hasidic Proverb
Can you seek to enjoy each day and live your life to its fullest? Can you find joy you are alive? Can let your heart turn toward happy moments, and search ways you can make the most of what you have?
4- Do Not Be Timid
Insistent, assertive, determined, firm, resolute are all emotions you should exercise on your healing journey.
“Don’t be too timid and squeamish about your actions.
All life is an experiment. The more experiments you make the better. What if they are a little coarse, and you may get your coat soiled or torn? What if you do fail, and get fairly rolled in the dirt once or twice. Up again, you shall never be so afraid of a tumble.”
~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
Up again is the key phrase. Try again to experience more happiness.
5- Write And Conduct Your Own Life Music
“Be the Melody in the Symphony of Your Life. Write the melody and the lyrics. Be the soloist and the conductor.”
~ Jonathan Lockwood Huie
You can – if you will – be both the captain of your attitude and the master of your destiny.
“How different our lives are when we really know what is deeply important to us, and keeping that picture in mind, we manage ourselves each day to be and to do what really matters most.”
~ Stephen R. Covey
Picture your own personal unique future life filled with your own happy music. Concentrate on what really matters and is of most importance.
6- Don’t Let Your Grief Experience Permanently Throw You From Your Comfort Nest
A grief experience may cause you to feel much like a baby robin thrown from its nest before it can fly.
“To be fully alive, fully human, and completely awake
is to be continually thrown out of the nest.”
~ Pema Chodron
Life happens. Each experience is personal but to decide what to do about being thrown from your unique comfort zone is the key.
“Don’t ask yourself what the world needs; ask yourself what makes you come alive. And then go and do that.
Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.”
~ Howard Thurman
Accept the challenge to come alive after sorrow and loss. Realize you can’t experience being human painlessly. How you handle your grieving is a key question. Not allowing your grief and loss to permanently throw you overboard to a sea of unhappiness and hopelessness is a far more important key. Doing so can unlock depressed happiness so you can stop grieving and start healing.
7- Embrace All Opportunities And Possibilities
At all times, embrace all positive available social media, technology, internet, and all other beneficial and essential resource solutions. Overcoming despair, grief and loss should be your highest priority. To stop grieving, start healing grief, loss, and sorrow, and finding hope and joy is vital to experiencing lasting peace and happiness.